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Porn, and all the other things nobody struggles with

Its been quite a while I stopped by this zone, I recently had a conversation with someone about blogging and suddenly I had the urge to come here. This is an article from one of my favorite blogs at the moment and the article really got me thinking about some issues that Christians don't talk about...enjoy  About 5 years ago, I attended this christian program where the man of God  made a categorical statement. “Everyone here struggles with sexual temptations, in one way or the other. Get used to it. Get comfortable talking about it. The hold that struggle has over you is its secrecy”. The ’emphasis on the words ‘everyone’ and ‘struggles’ are mine. But those words struck me rather forcibly at the time. Everyone? Struggle? Like it’s a real live problem for everyone? Let me give you a little perspective. I had been a christian for a while and was just fresh out of University. Sexual struggles had hitherto been reserved for those ‘bad boys turned Jesus boys’ that had had a sin
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Naija Single Girl: Job Hunting in Nigeria

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MUCH ADO ABOUT NEW YEARS RESOLUTION

It is only fair to talk about New Year’s resolution because this the first post for this year, so I will say happy New Year (covers face). At the end of the year 2013, I had a working idea of how my year would be like so as 2014 came, I had armed myself with different resolutions which I would run with throughout the year. I did everything right, I thought long and hard about the resolution, how I will go about it, what will I need to make it work , you name it I thought of it. But the first quarter of the year is coming to an end and wait for it….drum roll… I have not achieved or even attempted one, the book I wrote it on is nowhere to be found.  I know *rolls eyes*, everyone I tell is shaking their head at me, but I know I am not alone in my fool’s paradise; we are many out there and it cuts across tribes, race and even continents because the abandonment of new year’s resolution before the end of the first quarter of the year is a known phenomenon, but what is the essence of m

Become a Super Saving Style Diva! 6 Great Tips for Shopping Smart & Spending Less

Ever since I started paying for things with my ATM card, life has seemed to be a breeze. They ask you for your card, you hand it over, punch in a few numbers and that gorgeous skirt is all yours. The feeling is empowering. But something that doesn't make me feel so good is when I get the bank account status alert on my phone. At that point I’m looking at the receipts going “How the hell did I spend so much today?” Well after one too many mini-brain aneurysms, I decided I was going to start shopping smart. What is the use of buying a great item and regretting it later? So that’s what we will be doing today, figuring out how to shop smart. First of all I know that sometimes the little voice in your head overshadows logic and tell you having a sequined skirt in 5 colors is an investment into your future, but sometimes you need to shut that voice up and think smart. These tips are not set in stone, but they have helped me a whole lot to get the best value for my money. Buy Ch

New Leadership Series with Chude Jideonwo: Soaring On the Wings of Hope

By Chude Jideonwo A lot of Nigerians who want to try and change their country and who have a zeal to do so are being discouraged by the myriad of challenges that abound.  There’s the school of thought that there’s so much to do but few people willing and able to do them. The idea is that the situation in the country is so hopeless and there is nothing we can do. I have been there many times, and not too long ago. I have spent the past eight years of my life working for country in one way or the other, and trying to sell hope and working to build platforms for my generation to impact the country, but very frequently I find myself so terribly disillusioned. It feels like I cannot succeed where, to rely on recent history, Gani Fawehinmi, Chinua Achebe,Aminu Kano and others have failed. At those times, I have managed to inspire myself by reminding myself of five times in my life when I have felt such an incredible sense of hope and faith – in myself, in my countrymen and in change.

Could Failing Save Our Nation

I get the whole prosperity thing, I really do. But whatever happened to contentment? Whatever happened to being thankful and grateful for what you have right now instead of perpetually clamoring for more? When is enough enough? When do you say, okay, I’m rich enough now. Lemme start to be content and start to help the less privileged? It does not exist! That time…not for everyone at least. A very small percentage of the world’s population controls half the wealth in the whole world. Truth is, nobody hands it to them and they know the price they paid to get there. But you, yes you! You want a private jet and you still want to sleep for 8 hours a day, and then spend 5 hours praying. Pray tell, how much time is left for you to work? But you, yes you! You want a private jet and you still want to sleep for 8 hours a day, and then spend 5 hours praying. Pray tell, how much time is left for you to work?You want to graduate with 1st class and you spend 6 hours at the prayer garden,

Taking Parental Guidance in “PG” More Seriously

By Penshy The new year comes with its own brand of drama. The world is never really drama free is it? We find ourselves asking questions like- will Kim Kardashian ever marry again? How many men does it take to screw in a light bulb? Is it now socially acceptable to expose children to nudity? It’s a known fact that we should adopt some kind of caution when it comes to exposing children to matters of the opposite sex and sex in general, but it seems with the age we are in, extra care has to be taken. We have the fashion industry, which looks more like its American and French counterparts day by day, promoting the showing of more skin, and then the music industry that more often than not teach our kids words like: “sarkodie” which means a vulgar and inappropriate thing in English. Not that these songs aren’t hits, but they have PG written all over them. Your kids don’t know what PG means, but you do. My aunt would definitely agree with me after her 5 year old told her friends “my m